A pre-planned funeral frees a grieving family from the anguish of making difficult decisions at a time of great stress. Long before a funeral is needed, important issues can be discussed and all details can be organized.
Most people who pre-arrange their funerals find they feel really good once arrangements are done. "That's a relief" is the phrase we hear most often. It's a relief to know spouses and children will be spared the task of funeral planning when they are grieving. It's a relief to have faced the inevitable fears associated with death, separation and the unknown and moved past them. It's a relief to have put in place prudent financial planning.
These days, as more people choose to face the notion of their own death squarely, and plan for it properly, there is an increasing interest in so-called "ethical wills," as well as financial wills. An ethical will often takes the form of a letter from the deceased to his or her loved ones, and outlines the important precepts or life lessons the deceased wishes to bequeath to the loved ones. This very appealing new twist has actually evolved from Jewish tradition.
When a couple has made prearrangements and one partner dies, the surviving partner is already familiar with our staff. When the survivor or other family member, or friend contacts us to inform us of the death, we are already familiar with the people concerned. When someone other than a spouse makes the call, we are able to convey the deceased's wishes, including special requests of a personal nature, such as the timing of the funeral, whether grandchildren should be included; we even receive requests on matters such as how to seat feuding relatives!
We find that if one partner in a marriage is Jewish and the other is not, the couple has an even greater sense of relief when arrangements about their preferences have been documented. For Benjamin's philosophy on providing funeral and burial services to intermarried couples, please see The Benjamin Group .
When a death occurs, we at Benjamin's will be able to guide a family in the way that honours and respects the deceased's wishes. We hold this as a sacred trust.
Many people find it makes sense for estate planning to prepay, because it ensures that your estate will never have to pay more to honour your wishes. If that is your preference, we will work with you to find the payment plan that best suits your circumstances. Some prefer a more graduated approach to inflation proofing, choosing to pay on an installment basis, while others prefer simply to record their wishes and leave payment to their estate.
To make an appointment or to receive more information, please contact Catherine Benjamin, who handles all preplanning inquiries, at Catherine@benjamins.ca or 416-829-5981.